Intuition seems to be popping up more and more and with it, the obvious question, “How do I listen to my intuition?” As an intuition coach, I’ve seen firsthand how different intuition looks for each person.
It’s easy to be misled by people telling you their way of connecting. Then we get caught up in self-defeating thoughts when their way doesn’t work for us.
In this blog post, I’ll give you my take on intuition and an awesome practice on how to tune into it (one that I believe can work for anyone). Along with a little discussion on how to tell the difference between intuition and a really sneaky voice of fear disguised as intuition (it’s happened to me more than once!).
What is intuition?
Intuition has been described as a
- gut feeling
- deep understanding
- an inner knowing
- voice within
- your spirit
and I’ve heard about a million other ways of it being described. I believe intuition is the place where your mind, body, and spirit all connect. It’s a forward momentum brought about by you to further your life.
People have intuitive hits all the time when they get off the freeway and avoid a huge accident. Or they call a friend that’s been on their mind only to learn that friend was about to harm themselves.
Intuition calls to us on a much subtler level as well and if we’re willing to take the time to develop our connection to our intuition, our lives can be lived with much more ease and flow. We can click “unsubscribe” from the struggle and bask in the energy of the universe.
How to listen to your intuition
As you move through these practices, I hope you’ll find that your intuition really is whispering in your ear most of the day. It hints that you should look up from your computer just in time to see a beautiful butterfly out the window. She taps on your shoulder for you to pay attention to your kids who just hugged and kissed.
It’s really a small whisper to you throughout the day to take a breath and drink in all the things that are going right in your life. And with everything, listening to your intuition does take practice.
Set aside the time
Making time to practice the connection with your intuition shows your brain that you are serious about it. Daily practice will help you cut through the mind drama more quickly. It basically primes your brain to get out of the way so you can more easily hear your intuitive thoughts.
Make an intention
The first step to listening to your intuition is to set the intention to do so. Say something like “Hey intuition, it’s me. I am so grateful that I can begin this practice of connecting with you. I am ready to hear your voice and follow your guidance.”
The best things to add to your intention include:
- willingness to show up
- detachment from the outcome
Connect with your body
Do whatever practice most easily helps you connect to your body. Exercise, yoga, deep breathing, meditation. All of these help us to feel what is happening in and around us.
If you don’t have an established get-into-your-body practice, no worries! Just take a couple of deep breaths and settle into your chair.
Thoughts will come up and these could be intuitive thoughts or they could be more mind drama. It’s time to start playing with these thoughts to get a better feel for them!
How do your thoughts feel?
How do the thoughts feel to your body? Again, if you don’t have an established practice with your body, that’s ok. We aren’t here to judge ourselves or our bodies.
Just notice what the thoughts feel like…play with them. A tightening in your belly, chest, or throat? Do they evoke a sensation like hot, or cold? Do they make you feel excited or scared?
How does your body describe the feelings associated with these thoughts?
There is a connection between these thoughts and the feelings they evoke within your body. At this stage, we are just playing around to see how different thoughts make us feel. We are waking up different neural pathways in our brains. It’s really exciting!
What do they make you think?
Now see if you can check in with what is happening in your mind as you are playing with these thoughts. Are you creating a plan of action? Does a visual come to mind? Colors? Lights? Do the thoughts make you want to think more thoughts like them?
Or are you shying away from them? Getting caught up in stories about what they mean? Is the voice that’s thinking the subsequent thoughts even your voice? Or is it the voice of a parent or loved one?
Journal your experience
Yup, grab your pen and notebook and write down everything you experienced. What is it like setting aside the time, making the intention, connecting to your body, and working through how your thoughts make you feel and think?
Write about what the hardest and easiest parts were for you. Write down what thoughts you feel were intuitive and how they made you think and feel versus how the ones you don’t believe were intuition made you think and feel. How well did you listen to your intuition?
Is it intuition or just a really sneaky voice that sounds like it?
I’ve been a coach for 3 years and in those 3 years, I’ve changed my coaching niche…a lot. At the beginning of 2022, I decided that intuition coaching was right for me. I changed my website, and all my branding, and went full throttle on intuition coaching.
I found a biz coach and was talking with her about all my grand plans for intuition coaching and she asked me what I thought about switching to anger. After thinking about this for a couple of nights, I decided that she was right.
This felt like the “answer” I was looking for to help me launch my business. I had extensive experience with anger…because honestly, I was angry a lot of the time. In my own coaching experiences, I’d worked through a lot of my anger and I felt like I could come up with a program to support women through it.
Not listening to ME
So for 6 months, I didn’t listen to my intuition. I changed niches without looking back but I never changed my website. No genius opt-ins came to mind. Looking back, it all felt so hard.
I had a lot of really good thoughts about anger but I couldn’t come up with a program on it. I spent a lot of time trying to convince myself that anger was right for me.
Then one day, I had the thought, what if it isn’t anger? And that opened a floodgate for me. A floodgate of grounding and safety. A floodgate of new ideas and a program that I put together in a day.
Intuition can be a really, really soft whisper that gets drowned out by excitement. I did feel excited about anger. I felt a huge push in my body to “do anger.” Push, push, push.
When I came back to intuition coaching, it was a pull. It felt like coming home and snuggling up with a warm blanket.
As you are working with your intuition, pay attention to things that feel exciting, without a lot of backing up. They can be sneaky ways our brain is trying to keep us small (because to our brains, small equals safety).
Intuition can be exciting but it also feels a lot more cozy and comforting too.
If you are struggling with how to listen to your intuition, try out the practice in this blog post and let me know how it worked for you. I’d love to hear from you…you can catch me on Instagram.